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September 5, 2015

Forgiveness

by Dennis Rouse
Forgiveness is at the foundation of marriages that make it for the long haul. It is the key component to working through the challenges of marriage when struggling to get along. It is a common characteristic of our most fulfilling relationships. Forgiveness is one of the most important ways that we model the life of Christ to a lost and dying world. Learn the qualities of one who forgives in part five of Family Strong
Sermon Notes

Matthew 19:1-10 NKJ
Now it came to pass, when Jesus had finished these sayings, that He
departed from Galilee and came to the region of Judea beyond the Jordan.
And great multitudes followed Him, and He healed them there. The
Pharisees also came to Him, testing Him, and saying to Him, “Is it lawful for
a man to divorce his wife for just any reason?” And He answered and said to
them, “Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning ‘made
them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his
father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one
flesh’? So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God
has joined together, let not man separate.” They said to Him, “Why then did
Moses command to give a certificate of divorce, and to put her away?” He
said to them, “Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, permitted you
to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. And I say to you,
whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries
another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced
commits adultery.” His disciples said to Him, “If such is the case of the man
with his wife, it is better not to marry.”
FORGIVENESS: COMBINATION OF GRACE AND MERCY
GRACE: GETTING WHAT YOU DON’T DESERVE
MERCY: NOT GETTING WHAT YOU DO DESERVE
Mark 11:22-26 NKJ
So Jesus answered and said to them, “Have faith in God. For assuredly, I
say to you, whoever says to this mountain, ‘Be removed and be cast into the
sea,’ and does not doubt in his heart, but believes that those things he says
will be done, he will have whatever he says. Therefore I say to you, whatever
things you ask when you pray, believe that you receive them, and you will
have them. And whenever you stand praying, if you have anything against
anyone, forgive him, that your Father in heaven may also forgive you your
trespasses. But if you do not forgive, neither will your Father in heaven
forgive your trespasses.”
Hebrews 12:15 NKJ
…looking carefully lest anyone fall short of the grace of God; lest any root of
bitterness springing up cause trouble, and by this many become defiled…
Top 10 Things to Forgive in Family Life:

  1. UNFAITHFULNESS
  2. DECEPTION
  3. ABUSE
  4. POOR FINANCIAL STEWARDSHIP
  5. SELFISHNESS
  6. UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS
  7. PRIDE
  8. BAD COMMUNICATION
  9. CONTENTIOUSNESS
  10. PETTINESS

Top 3 Qualities in People Who Forgive:

  1. HUMILITY
    1 Peter 5:5 NKJ
    …all of you be submissive to one another, and be clothed with humility, for
    “God resists the proud, but gives grace to the humble.”
    Colossians 2:13-14 NLT
    You were dead because of your sins and because your sinful nature was not
    yet cut away. Then God made you alive with Christ, for he forgave all our
    sins. He canceled the record of the charges against us and took it away by
    nailing it to the cross.
    HUMILITY SAYS, “I MUST FORGIVE THE SAME WAY JESUS FORGAVE
    ME!”
  2. UNCONDITIONAL LOVE
    1 Corinthians 13:4-8 NLV
    Love does not give up. Love is kind. Love is not jealous. Love does not put
    itself up as being important. Love has no pride. Love does not do the wrong
    thing. Love never thinks of itself. Love does not get angry. Love does not
    remember the suffering that comes from being hurt by someone. Love is not
    happy with sin. Love is happy with the truth. Love takes everything that
    comes without giving up. Love believes all things. Love hopes for all things.
    Love keeps on in all things. Love never comes to an end…
  3. LORDSHIP
    One of the biggest challenges you will have in relationships is whether
    JESUS or your EMOTIONS will be LORD of your life.
    Ephesians 4:30-32 NLV
    Do not make God’s Holy Spirit have sorrow for the way you live. The Holy
    Spirit has put a mark on you for the day you will be set free. Put out of your
    life all these things: bad feelings about other people, anger, temper, loud
    talk, bad talk which hurts other people, and bad feelings which hurt other
    people. You must be kind to each other. Think of the other person. Forgive
    other people just as God forgave you because of Christ’s death on the cross.
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